Online dating is the new way of dating and meeting new friends, maybe the love of your life! In fact, if you’re a guy, you’ll be surprised to see how many attractive, single women are looking to find the man of their dreams this way too.
But ok, now you are online, you have created a great profile; one that attracts the babes out there, right? You want to be a real ‘catch’, to be reeled in. Just remember, there are thousands of other guys with the same plan as you.
The only problem is that the high number of women who are looking for the right partner attracts an even higher number of men who dream about being that perfect partner. The competition doesn’t sleep and the more men are hoping to get a date with a woman, the more important it gets to set yourself apart from the other guys.
Saying the same things as everyone else and hoping that she replies doesn’t work. Therefore, completion is simply too high. Because I wanted to know how many messages a hot girl gets on an online dating profile I recently made the test and set up a fake profile with a sexy picture of a half-naked girl. I received over a dozen messages in the first couple of minutes.
How on earth do I get a conversation started, to make her notice ME!
Lots of online dating sites have a ‘wink’ button – that’s not a bad place to start! Because it gets the ball rolling. Let’s look at more tips:
Step 1: It’s the subject line that counts
Remember you need to be different here.
Make her want to open your message. Some subject lines do sound ridiculous but if it’s catchy enough, she will open it.
Ok, this one is slightly too cheesy…
What do you think of this? “You are beautiful but why so shy? I am not a Prince, but I am charming!” Think she might be interested in
that – who isn’t drawn to a charming guy?
Ladies love charming guys but have to pull the switch first with your subject lines and ensure it has the rudiments of igniting a conversation.
What’s next? You look for a girl you are attracted to and you write her. Saying the right things to
her is important but there is one thing that she will see even before she reads your message. The first thing a woman sees when you send her a message on an online dating site is the subject line. Ignoring this tiny detail would be a huge mistake. Come on, you can be more creative than all the other guys who write a boring “hey”, “how are you” or “hello beautiful” in the subject line. Be funny, be playful and make her want to open your message.
Even though the following subject lines sound completely ridiculous they actually worked with a great success rate when I used them:
10 Reasons Why You Should Open this Message
You are beautiful but why are you so shy?
I am not a prince but I am charming
Step 2: Forget the standard type messages
Guys often start off with “Hello! How are you?” type of thing. But you need to forget the same old
Rather, think about something that makes it more personal. Then at least she thinks you didn’t just copy and paste stuff and that you could really be interested in her.
There are many ways to beef up a sparkling conversation with a girl without summersaulting or going haywire.
You could start off by first acknowledging her presence and that you are incredibly happy and grateful for taking out time to have a little chat with you.
Something in those lines would be a nice way to get the conversation going and then you can take things to another level by asking her the right questions but be very careful not to go too personal.
Step 3: How’s about a compliment?
Girls like an honest guy, but now you are online and you don’t know her all that well.
But you still want to make a good impression. Maybe it’s best to avoid the same-old “you’re beautiful” or “you’re cute” stuff she’s tired of
Check out her profile really carefully – what is it that made you truly drawn to her, her eyes? Her friendly smile?
She will be complimented that you really noticed something special about her – she will no doubt respond!
You have to think outside the box and go the extra mile when it comes to complimenting her.
Step 4: There’s information she gave you on her profile – use it
If you are really interested in a particular girl, look on her profile at her hobbies. You can tell her that it’s also her interests and hobbies that make you interested in her.
Most guys ignore this vital aspect of online conversation and later blame the girl when they get rejected or rebuffed.
There is a reason why a profile page is on every online dating platform. It is to get to know the person whom you are chatting with at least a glimpse of who she is.
Although many ladies do not reveal so much about them on their profile page but you’ll almost always find something on her profile page that can be used to start off a discussion.
Maybe her country, region she resides, culture, etc.
There must be something on there. You just have to peer in thoroughly.
Step 5: If you want her to reply, give her the reason to
You have already made it clear to her that you like her smile and that from her hobbies and interests, you can see that she is interesting. If she has mentioned that she loves to travel, for instance, you need to expand on that.
You can link it to yourself, otherwise, she might just think you are talking just to impress.
Share some of your own travel experiences with her.
By the time you meet up with her, you might have more to chat about, showing that you are really interested in her!
Step 6: Avoid telling her you’re new to this dating game
Boring! Nobody really wants to know or cares that you are new to online dating and don’t know how it works.
Now you are focusing all the attention on you, making yourself not really appear confident. It might leave her awkward, trying to reassure you that everything is OK. No ways!
Remember this girl you are trying to impress, charm and hopefully want to hear from again doesn’t want to be your mom!
In the same vein, don’t ask her how long has she been involved in online dating? All this boring info doesn’t lead anywhere and why does it matter anyway?
Step 7: In saying that, don’t try to be too cool and too cocky
It’s kind of arrogant. And women really don’t like that – it’s a turn-off for them.
Rather use words that make you come across a tinge vulnerable like using occasional words like ‘sorry’ or ‘probably’.
Remember these online dating sites are a minefield for both men and women. If you come across as less threatening, you up your game and your chances of making it into the real world.
This means you shouldn’t too shy or too stern in your conversation. A lady can tell if you are trying hard to keep up the conversation pretty fast than you can ever imagine.
Step 8: Tease; be positive and outgoing
Online chats are really ideal for light-hearted teasing – you really can also get to know a person like this – more so when you meet her in person.
It shows a kind of outgoingness and positivity which is attractive to a girl.
No one is drawn to a negative person all the time. An attractive person is a happy, positive one, sure of themselves and where they are going in Life.
Positivity will tell in the way you converse with her and mature ladies will know right off the bat.
You need to express yourself with confidence and if possible, attach a bit of humor.
It’ll not only make you stand out from the others guys in her circle but get the relationship off to a flying start.
Step 9: Be brief
Avoid going into long speeches about all your likes and dislikes.
Imagine you were at a bar and a lovely girl comes up to you and starts telling you in detail all of her favorite songs.
Huh? No thanks!
Remember to keep everything brief and use your interests as good conversation starters. Just a bit will do. Keep stuff upbeat and interesting.
Ladies like it when a guy allow them do most of talking and he listens attentively to them and even smile or laugh as they pour out their hearts.
This doesn’t mean you should express yourself but if you must, be brief. Let her do the talking and she’ll love you for that.
Step 10: Remember that your ultimate goal is to meet up with your ‘chosen’ girl in person
This means you shouldn’t keep the messaging going on and on for too long before you ask for her number, with the chances of meeting up. In saying that, don’t push it to be too early either.
But if you have been chatting for some time, it’s time to be bold and meet her – unless you had a pen pal in mind. But that will also get old fast.
You get what you give – it’s that simple, really
When all is said and done, the kind of responses you want from the women on the online dating site will be what you are putting out there.
You know that saying, “what you put in is what you get out”.
Did you give your profile some time and interest to be attractive enough to attract the kind of woman you want in your life?
Are the messages you send the kind that women want to respond to? Are you the real deal?
Don’t get too ‘frantic’ if you struggle a bit. Remember the real fun is making mistakes. You learn from them and soon your charms and great personality will hit home – Bull’s Eye! And then you could use something like this –
I’ll leave you with this;
“If I had a garden, I would put my tulips and your tulips together”!
That’s what you are aiming for. So get it right!